Recently I published an article called Why You Should Go Out Alone, and although many women really liked the content which reveals something so true, some women asked me how to feel confident while going to an event alone, because they actually feel daunted in that situation.
So today I've decided to write another article about how to go to an event alone without feeling daunted, so that your problem can be solved!
Yes, you've decided to go out alone after reading the well-received content, now you simply need to learn the following tips and tricks, so that you'll be equipped with confidence to go to the party alone in order to implement what you've learned and understood.
1. Arrive early.
Let's say the party starts at 7pm. In fact, most people would arrive at about 8pm. If you arrive at the party early (at 7pm), you will certainly meet the organizers who are usually the most important people of the whole party, because organizers know most people that they have invited! The organizers are the gateway to other people that you'd like to meet tonight!
So here is the plan: arrive early, and speak to the organizers. The organizers will surely enjoy speaking to you because they probably also want to do some warming-up conversations in order to start the night well. Besides, you are attending their party, so, of course, they are supposed to welcome you!
It's much easier to speak to the organizers at 7pm because not many people are there yet! As a result, the organizers are able to give you more attention now & you become their closer friends for the night, as you talked to them first!
2. When other people arrive, the organizers will speak to them, and you simply join their conversation too.
Organizers are busy (in fact, organizing a party is a stressful job), so when others have arrived, the organizers must talk to them too. Because you are already there, you can easily join their conversation as well. That's how you meet more people & that's how you know who is who and what's going on very early on. This helps you understand the dynamics of the party from the start, so that you can re-calibrate along the way.
3. When you see someone you are interested in, wave at them, so they will walk towards you and join your conversation.
After waving at them, they will stand in front of you and wonder if they know you or not. Now you can say to them, "You look like my friend John. I nearly thought you were John!" Alternatively, you can say, "I really like your style tonight, so I just would like to let you know it." (If you are a shy woman, the former statement is probably easier for you to say; if you are not really shy, you just say the latter statement, please.) As a matter of fact, the latter statement is more powerful and shows your real confidence - only really confident women have the courage to compliment men on their looks fast and directly. Actually, I use the latter quite often, and 99% of the time, men's reaction is very good because not many people would notice men's fashion (and surprisingly, many men actually spend more energy on their fashion than you think, so they really appreciate it if you acknowledge the result they've achieved).
Also, when you wave at someone who just arrived, they might think you are the organizer of the party because your gesture is like a host's. Yes, that's the right impression you should give them. Once you've had a host's mindset, you look much more confident immediately.
3. Identify the "hub" and approach them.
One or two hours later, you may have already noticed who are the VIPs of the party. Usually, they are the "hub" of the event. They know most people here; everyone likes them; their powerful network resulted in their impressive net worth - This might sound a bit obnoxious, but it's probably a fact.
Now it's time to approach the "hub".
When you see the hot VIP ordering drinks for his friends at the bar counter, you also go ahead and order a drink right next to him. Now you are standing by his side, and naturally your eyes will meet his, and you smile at each other. If he is a really experienced VIP, he will ask, "What's your name?" because VIPs are the "hub" due to a reason - they keep meeting new people and building their network. If he doesn't ask "What's your name", you can still say, "Hi, I'm XYZ & I really like your style." (The compliment indicates that you are talking to him not because you want to approach him, but because you want to tell him something cool.) Then he will be really happy and say, "Oh. Thank you. I'm John."
Now you will seize the opportunity and have an engaging conversation with the VIP who will introduce you to other people that you would like to meet later on! Another epic gateway.
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