Jade Seashell

According to a recent survey, a large number of women can't have orgasm during sexual intercourse.  If you are wondering why you can't have an orgasm, now you know you are not alone.

         In this article, I'm going to show you why so many women can't have orgasm and how you can!

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          The Number One reason why women can't have orgasm is: they set up orgasm as a goal to be achieved!  Ironically, the more you see orgasm as a goal, the less likely you are going to achieve it.

         This is because when you set up orgasm as a goal to be achieved, you are taking "results-based actions" which often take you nowhere and make you daunted.

         Remember, being relaxed is the prerequisite of having an orgasm, so when you are driven by your goal, you can't really be relaxed.

        Yet when you are able to chill, you can savor the process of lovemaking.  That is the gateway to having an orgasm.

        Stop focusing on achieving an orgasm as a goal.  Start enjoying the pleasure.  Then you are more likely to have an orgasm, because enjoying the process and loving the journey is "effort-based actions" which, ironically, will probably make you enjoy sex and orgasm.

        A question for you: What is your biggest challenge in terms of sex?  Please leave a comment below (you don't need to post your full name) or send me an email, so that I can write another piece to address your concerns. :-)